I read a paper on premarital sex that offered a reason and reasoning about hooking up vs. seeking a serious relationship that I had not heard before.
In one case, a young man was going to school out of state. He reasoned that he was not going to settle near the school, so any relationship he started there could only be temporary. Thus, he justified hooking up - often and exclusively.
In another case, a young man went to a school near home. The author, who knew both men, thought this was because the second fellow was looking for a wife who would settle with him in his hometown.
I have never run across this line of reasoning. If I had only heard the first case, I would have thought it was a creative but particularly bogus way for a man to justify promiscuity. But hearing the second case - and the author taking both kinds of reasoning as normal - makes me think I am meeting a subculture I have not met before.
My first guess is that these are working-class guys who always expected to settle near family, and find a job and wife in the area. They went to college because they were good athletes, not primarily for an education that would transform them as people.
Any thoughts on this matter?