For our annual alumni study group this summer we are reading Michael Pollan's Cooked: A Natural History of Transformation. He offers the theory, advanced by many, that culture begins with cooking - specifically, with roasting meat.
I have long taught in my "Family Life" class that turning men into husbands and fathers is the first great act of civilization.
Just on first glance, I think my 'first act' comes first.
I also think that seeing cooking meat as the first act of culture is a more masculine view, while seeing marriage as coming first is a more feminine view.
This is a three-quarters-formed thought, but worth pursuing.