The Institute for American Values will soon release an excellent report, "Does the Shape of Families Shape Faith?" by Elizabeth Marquardt, Amy Zeitlow, and Charles E. Stokes.
This study of the religious effects of divorce on kids suggested to me a connection to another effect of divorce on kids.
Researchers have long noted that many divorced kids not only lose all
connection with their fathers, but also with their father’s whole side of the
family. The keenest loss is of their
paternal grandparents, who are usually a huge part of a child’s support
network.
In the same way, if children
lose their religious community in the divorce, they lose one of the richest
sources of general support that our society offers. They not only lose the small number of people
in the church they might have had close personal ties to; divorced kids often lose
the much larger network of weak ties that a congregation gives them, the adults
who take some interest in their lives and connect them to many other networks
of information and support.
4 comments:
I recall a DCE explaining about 20 years ago that at the church she served the Wednesday evening "Logos" program was especially important for children of divorce. They could be there consistently on Wednesday evening but at best only 50% of Sunday mornings.
One of the strong findings of this report, which Marquardt has pressed before, is that most divorced kids who grew up in a church reported that no one from the church talked to them about how they were handling the divorce.
One of the most amazing experiences I've had in the church was a divorced family who ALL stayed in the church. Mom, mom's new husband, dad and dad's new wife all sat in the same pew with the kids. It must have been awkward for the adults, but it was much, much better for the kids.
I must say I congratulate you as a blogger of so many years! I just found this blog, and I have SO much to catch up on. Each one of your posts so far has got me thinking and interested. Love this site.
-Anon
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