I did want to take issue with one point that McMillan, a thrice-divorced single mother, makes:
if what you really want is a baby, go get you one. Your husband will be along shortly. Motherhood has a way of weeding out the lotharios.
McMillan's advice is not completely wrong, but it is very risky.
On the one hand, it is true many women who have children out of wedlock do eventually marry someone, including most teen welfare moms (see Edin and Kefalas' Promises I Can Keep).
On the other hand, it is much harder to court with children. It is less likely that step-fathers will be as good for kids as would natural fathers married to natural mothers. Most of all, McMillan's strategy discounts the bad effects on the children of their single-parent years. Things may work out OK eventually, but there are usually costs from the tough years. And if things do not work out eventually, all the years are likely to be tough.
I think Tracy McMillan does offer a helpful reality check to single women who do want to marry, though she offers it in an almost brutal way. But I think she errs in her advice about the relationship between marriage and children.