tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post115884039968936032..comments2023-12-28T18:17:11.191-05:00Comments on Gruntled Center: Assisted MarriageGruntledhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-83585030109635507362007-05-31T08:09:00.000-04:002007-05-31T08:09:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1158965013725886902006-09-22T18:43:00.000-04:002006-09-22T18:43:00.000-04:00I don't envision parental assistance as a veto, ju...I don't envision parental assistance as a veto, just shared wisdom -- and a built-in "slow down" mechanism for the young ones. I know my daughters have good sense, and expect them to pick well. My son is young yet, but I am hopeful about his developing judgment, too.Gruntledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1158957865044603122006-09-22T16:44:00.000-04:002006-09-22T16:44:00.000-04:00I have to differ on this one.First, most American ...I have to differ on this one.<BR/><BR/>First, most American fathers are rather ... PROTECTIVE ... of their daughters.<BR/><BR/>The 2nd time I met Carolyn's parents it was at her house. She had a headache and went to lie down for a while. I was at the kitchen table with her parents and perhaps brother.<BR/><BR/>Her father said that he had something to show me. He went into the closet and came back with something. He then proceeded to line up bullets and shells on the kitchen table, in ascending order of size and deadliness. He didn't follow this up with any threat - he just educated me about ammunition.<BR/><BR/>Reportedly he caught hell from both mother and daughter later.<BR/><BR/>At the same time, my parents found Carolyn to be a bit weird. Let's face it - she was. Their little boy was dating a woman almost 3 years older (we were in college) who was what many would call eccentric. She still is eccentric, but my family is used to it now.<BR/><BR/>It would be a stretch to say that either set of parents disapproved of us, but it would also be a stretch to say that they would have chosen the match. And yet, both sets of parents absolutely LOVE their in-law now.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes the parents can get in the way - and it still works out for the best.<BR/><BR/>We will be married 12 years next months, with 7 years of dating before that.Mark Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06744333045874641836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1158946756885608952006-09-22T13:39:00.000-04:002006-09-22T13:39:00.000-04:00True. I would still like to sort through the poss...True. I would still like to sort through the possible guys before anyone commits to anything.Gruntledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1158931531470147132006-09-22T09:25:00.000-04:002006-09-22T09:25:00.000-04:00Assisted marriage sounds good to me, too. I think ...Assisted marriage sounds good to me, too. I think that the relationship you describe with your eldest daughter shows that you have instilled your values in her and that in itself will provide her the "assistance" you want her to have.Jody Harringtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08031378214797420014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1158919327749780732006-09-22T06:02:00.000-04:002006-09-22T06:02:00.000-04:00I also read this article and found it very interes...I also read this article and found it very interesting. I have to say that I wholeheartedly agree with the idea of "assisted marriage." Parents are likely to choose a partner for their child who comes from a similar background in terms of economics, value and location, which would eliminate some fights common in marriages and give the couple a common background to draw from in order to resolve disagreements.<BR/><BR/>Maybe it wouldn't be love at first sight, but it would provide a solid foundation on which to build a relationship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com