tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post115763850186939768..comments2023-12-28T18:17:11.191-05:00Comments on Gruntled Center: Why Don't Homosexuals Rush to Marry Where They Can?Gruntledhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1157806017038535292006-09-09T08:46:00.000-04:002006-09-09T08:46:00.000-04:00Well, the initial Massachusetts numbers probably r...Well, the initial Massachusetts numbers probably reflect pent-up demand. I think Eskridge and Spedale and right that it is only now, a decade-plus into the Scandinavian experiment, that we can start to see what normal demand might look like. <BR/><BR/>Alan's point is that the numbers of homosexual marriages would not be threateningly large in the long run. I agree with him. On the other hand, these low marriage numbers do suggest that homosexual couple commitment levels are not very impressive. Some commitment is better than none, but it does undermine the contention (of others -- I don't think Alan has said this) that homosexual marriage would be the same as traditional marriage.Gruntledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1157747413530135802006-09-08T16:30:00.000-04:002006-09-08T16:30:00.000-04:00Please help me as I must be confused by the number...Please help me as I must be confused by the numbers. Alan posted on September 7, to validate that, “These kinds of numbers punch a major hole in the hysterical "gay marriage will change our entire society!" argument.”<BR/><BR/>Allan posted the following:<BR/>"The preliminary number of marriage certificates issued and registered in Massachusetts from May 17 to December 31, 2004:<BR/><BR/>Male/Female: 27,045<BR/>Male/Male: 2,123<BR/>Female/Female: 3,871"<BR/><BR/>If I understanding the above numbers, correctly, over eighteen percent (18%) of all the marriage certificates issued in the seven (7) months mentioned were between same sex couples.<BR/><BR/>If, as stated, by Professor Weston, in the original posting, that the best scientific estimate says that about 3% of the population is exclusively homosexual then these statistics are unbelievably high and would punch a major hole in the argument that same sex marriages will not change marriage as we have know it. <BR/><BR/>Again, if these numbers are correct, Massachusetts' experience proves things have changed in that state and it would not be a stretch to expect it to change in states where same sex marriages are legalized.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1157737670488626172006-09-08T13:47:00.000-04:002006-09-08T13:47:00.000-04:00Sporcupine,Practically everything on your list can...Sporcupine,<BR/><BR/>Practically everything on your list can be taken care of with a simple durable power of attorney.<BR/><BR/>As for health & social security benefits, let's remember that those were conferred for the protection of child-bearing couples where one adult worked and the other raised the children. You can call that antiquated, but you should at least consider the historical precedent in making your argument.<BR/><BR/>The Princeton Principles has done exhaustive work in laying out the rational and historical reasons for the benefits that come with marriage in America - and why those benefits should remain limited to those unions which normally produce offspring.Chris Larimerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01770607122746467750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1157676829776092592006-09-07T20:53:00.000-04:002006-09-07T20:53:00.000-04:00"With the exception of things like inheritance and..."With the exception of things like inheritance and medical issues, most of the legal roadblocks can be gotten around"<BR/><BR/>No, that's not the whole sequence. Marriage gets pretty close to hitting every aspect of legal existence.<BR/><BR/>It's got rules about owning property.<BR/><BR/>It's got rules about who has to pay off debts, which make it easier to get and use credit.<BR/><BR/>It's got rules about what happens to wealth and income if someone walks out.<BR/><BR/>It's got rules about what happens to wealth and income if somone dies.<BR/><BR/>it's got rules about what happen to wealth and income if someone goes into a coma and can't make independent decisions.<BR/><BR/>It's got rules about who can get information from someone else's doctor.<BR/><BR/>It's got rules about who can give directions to someone else's doctor.<BR/><BR/>When you get a job, it brings added benefits, like family health care premiums.<BR/><BR/>When you pay into Social Security, it brings with spouse and survivor benefits.<BR/><BR/>If the spouse dies without a will, marriage determines who inherits.<BR/><BR/>If the spouse dies with a mean and spiteful will, in most states, marriage insures at least some inheritance anyway.<BR/><BR/>And again, we have not yet begun the issues of conceiving children, giving birth, adopting, raising children, handling custody after a death or divorce, signing kids out of school, signing kids into the doctor's office or the hospital, and so on.<BR/><BR/>Those rules are in dozens of state statutes, dozens of federal statutes, a fair number of local ordinances, local school board policies, personnel manuals, job contracts, deeds, and case law. In any given county, the stack would be several feet high, and the stack in the next county would be at least a little different.<BR/><BR/>Hiring g a lawyer good enough to get close to matching that would use up almost any couple's entire wealth. <BR/><BR/>And that would be if they fully agreed on what the lawyer should set up. If they disagree, the rules for lawyers say they should have two different attorneys, and once they have two different attorneys, they relationship has already been transformed beyond recognition.<BR/><BR/>From a legal perspective, there are no ways to get close to marriage other than marriage.SPorcupinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12088269844922566716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1157639765142116452006-09-07T10:36:00.000-04:002006-09-07T10:36:00.000-04:00I think it'll be the next generation that rushes t...I think it'll be the next generation that rushes to same-sex marriage.<BR/><BR/>After all, the current generations (say, gay couples over age 30) have gotten used to working around the roadblocks. With the exception of things like inheritance and medical issues, most of the legal roadblocks can be gotten around. Also, these couples are used to considering themselves married/partnered without the piece of paper.<BR/><BR/>The next generation will be the one that uses the "new" rules to get married. They have grown up through marriages (mainly hetero homes) and if marriage is legal for them they will be more likely to choose marriage.<BR/><BR/>If X was not an option for years, and now it is but you've lived fine without X for so long, how much of a hurry are you in to choose X? On the other hand, if X was always possible for you, why avoid it?Mark Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06744333045874641836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1157639312432404312006-09-07T10:28:00.000-04:002006-09-07T10:28:00.000-04:00Can you use this to draw conclusions about what wo...Can you use this to draw conclusions about what would happen in the US? Unless I'm mistaken, the northern European countries you mentioned have the lowest marriage rates in the world, hetero- and homosexual alike.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com