tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post113258558243444436..comments2023-12-28T18:17:11.191-05:00Comments on Gruntled Center: The Twentysomething Bride is the Happiest WifeGruntledhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-55254041331816124072008-10-10T10:06:00.000-04:002008-10-10T10:06:00.000-04:00he American justice Dept. have recently approved t...he American justice Dept. have recently approved the power of yoga and <BR/>meditation for happy marriage life vide a recent judgement in the American court.” Man Who Slapped <BR/>Wife Sentenced to Yoga, It's Anger Management, Says Judge." First there was <BR/>house arrest. Now there's yoga. A judge ordered a man convicted of slapping <BR/>his wife to take a yoga class as part of his one-year probation. "It's part <BR/>of anger management," County Criminal Court at Law Judge Larry Standley said <BR/>of the ancient Hindu philosophy of exercise and well-being. "For people who <BR/>are into it, it really calms them down. " Standley, a former prosecutor, <BR/>said the case of James Lee Cross was unique. Cross, a 53-year-old car <BR/>salesman from Tomball, explained that his wife was struggling with a <BR/>substance abuse problem and that he struck her on New Year's Eve during an <BR/>argument about her drinking. "He was trying to get a hold of her because she <BR/>has a problem," Standley said after the court hearing. "I thought this would <BR/>help him realize that he only has control over himself." The sentence came <BR/>as a surprise to Cross, who was told to enroll in a class and report back to <BR/>Standley on his progress. "I'm not very familiar with it," Cross said of <BR/>yoga. "From what I understand, it may help in a couple ways, not only as far <BR/>as mentally settling, but maybe a little weight loss." Darla Magee, an <BR/>instructor at Yoga Body Houston in River Oaks, said she would recommend that <BR/>Cross take a basic yoga class emphasizing breathing and including a variety <BR/>of postures -- forward bends, back bends and twists. "Yoga can help us to <BR/>get rid of many emotional issues we might have," she said. "It's a spiritual <BR/>cleanse." Prosecutor Lincoln Goodwin agreed to a sentence of probation <BR/>without jail time because Cross had no significant criminal history <BR/>http://www.chron.com/cs/CDA/ssistory.mpl/metropolitan/2365341.<BR/>Yoga which is one of the greatest Indian contribution to the world has got <BR/>vast potential in all fields. In Tihar jail India Yoga is experimented among <BR/>the inmates and found successful. Their criminal mentality is changed. This <BR/>study aimed at investigating the effect of Vipassana Meditation (VM) on <BR/>Quality of Life (QOL), Subjective Well-Being (SWB), and Criminal Propensity <BR/>(CP) among inmates of Tihar Jail, Delhi. To this effect the following <BR/>hypotheses were formulated. 1. There will be a significant positive effect <BR/>of VM on the QOL of inmates of Tihar jail. 2. VM will have a positive and <BR/>significant effect on SWB of inmates. 3. Criminal propensity (CP) of inmates <BR/>will decrease significantly after attending the VM course. 4. There will be <BR/>significant difference in SWB and CP of experimental (Vipassana) group and <BR/>control (non-Vipassana) group. 5. Male and female inmates will differ <BR/>significantly in SWB and CP, as a result of VM. In the famous "Time" <BR/>magazine the importance meditation and yoga, an ancient Indian system, is <BR/>high-lighted that the ancient mind- and spirit-enhancing art is becoming <BR/>increasingly popular and gaining medical legitimacy. It is a multi billion <BR/>dollar business in US. In many Universities it is accepted as subject and <BR/>included in the Syllabus. In the latest famous book "Inspire! What Great <BR/>Leaders Do" written by Mr.Lance Secretan recently published by John Wiley <BR/>and sons, the benefit of meditation is elaborately described for good <BR/>corporate governance. By practicing transcendental meditation, or TM, many <BR/>people have got relief from back pain, neck pain, depression. The mind calms <BR/>and quiets, . What thoughts you have during meditation become clearer, more <BR/>focused. Anger, anxiety and worries give way to a peace. In the world <BR/>exorbitant medical expenses one can definitely make use of meditation. <BR/>Maharshi Mahesh Yogi and Sri Ravi Sankar are popularizing this. The Iyengar <BR/>Yoga institute in US is famous.<BR/>In Bhagavad-Gita Gita Lord Krishna has inspired Arjuna to rise from his <BR/>depression by preaching Gita in the battlefield and to rise from the <BR/>depression to do his duties. In Holy Gita we can see, being hidden by the <BR/>cosmic overview of any institution beset with myriad problems, not the least <BR/>of which is its lack of moral probity, there is a groundswell of educated <BR/>people seeking answers to deeply personal but universally asked questions. <BR/>Chie Executives taking lessons from yoga, meditation and learning how to <BR/>deal with human resources equations in an enlightened manner. Individuals <BR/>from every walk of life can get ideas of how to be better human beings, more <BR/>balanced and less stressed out.<BR/>Medical studies continue to show regular meditation working magic in <BR/>reducing blood pressure and stress-related illnesses, including heart <BR/>disease.bhattathirihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09142082349506392967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1132707029972375832005-11-22T19:50:00.000-05:002005-11-22T19:50:00.000-05:00Individuals are different, and you are certainly f...Individuals are different, and you are certainly free to pick any path that works for you. As a sociologist, I would be willing to say that of a hundred women who thought they didn't want to have children at 25, most would change their minds by 35, and most of the rest would have regrets at 45. You may be the exception which, as you noted at the outset, gives you other options.Gruntledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1132694667861310122005-11-22T16:24:00.000-05:002005-11-22T16:24:00.000-05:00Fear of choosing wrongly? Not my issue, actually. ...Fear of choosing wrongly? Not my issue, actually. I've dated plenty of guys and feel like I know what I'm looking for. The guy I've been dating for nearly three years is a real gem compared to many men out there. So as for being scared of making the wrong choice, it's not really a fear of mine because unfortunately, I don't see marriage as the commitment most do. I've come to see it as something you can most certainly get out of if you want to, for whatever reason your little heart desires. (Both parents have been married multiple times.) And I'm also putting it off because I'm a very independent, happy-to-be-by-myself woman who enjoys having plenty of time to herself at home. I'm just not ready to come home to someone <I>every single night for the rest of my life.</I> I know there can be "independent" couples, and maybe I just need to grow up a little more, but I'm just not ready to deal with that at this point in time. I see it this way: if I'm in a loving, caring, honest relationship - what difference is marriage going to make? Why potentially ruin what we have now by being forced to see each other ALL THE TIME? (Or does that say that maybe I'm not with the right guy?? I happen to think he's a wonderful catch.)Liberal Bananahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16756516267959299264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1132676114956281602005-11-22T11:15:00.000-05:002005-11-22T11:15:00.000-05:00Children of divorce tend to put off marriage for a...Children of divorce tend to put off marriage for a long time, for fear of choosing wrongly. Does that affect you, do you think?Gruntledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1132674074739012972005-11-22T10:41:00.000-05:002005-11-22T10:41:00.000-05:00Very interesting post! I'm 25 and it almost made m...Very interesting post! I'm 25 and it almost made me start hyper-ventilating. But luckily, I'm a smart woman who won't be pressured by society to marry or do ANYTHING I'm not really up for. Marriage is definitely less of a pressure when you're 95% sure you don't want kids, I have to say. And if I change my mind later in life, then so be it. I've heard from plenty of people who have said that if you think you might not want kids, then take consider that seriously. It's a HUGE decision (obviously). I've already seen one of my friends get divorced, and my parents were divorced when I was three, so that kind of stuff also has an effect on one's marriage decisions. It's not that I haven't gotten married because of my career - honestly, I'd love to marry a guy who would let me NOT work and just do volunteer projects for the rest of my days. But finding a guy like THAT who's also compatible in every other way is like a needle in a haystack, so I'm not holding my breath. :)Liberal Bananahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16756516267959299264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1132624840570218032005-11-21T21:00:00.000-05:002005-11-21T21:00:00.000-05:00Yes, there is always the selection problem. Still...Yes, there is always the selection problem. Still, I know women who just don't think about marriage through their twenties, in part because they thought that it would be better - more mature - to marry later. As with any kind of social knowledge, it may be useful to apply to your own family. If a signficant proportion of women do marry at 25 because they know about this finding, then the social facts will change. This is what reflexive sociology is all about.Gruntledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1132609671939713532005-11-21T16:47:00.000-05:002005-11-21T16:47:00.000-05:00"Then again, how could a professor or mentor have ..."Then again, how could a professor or mentor have phrased it in a PC way without the fear of sounding sexist or discriminating, or for that matter, discouraging academically?"<BR/><BR/>That is half the difficulty -- I have the advantage of tenure, a thick skin, and a genial demeanor. But others might rightly fear the thought police for even mentioning the trade-offs of children vs. work.<BR/><BR/>The other half of the difficulty is that the natural discipline to treat this question is mine - sociology - yet the discipline is largely committed to the view that and family/work conflicts can and should be handled by more state-funded daycare. And many of the leaders of the professional at the moment are childless.Gruntledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1132607567588116582005-11-21T16:12:00.000-05:002005-11-21T16:12:00.000-05:00Some feminists may balk at this, but maybe it woul...Some feminists may balk at this, but maybe it would be useful considering Hewlett’s findings if the general college education included more realistic (and required) dialogue about life choices, such as relationships and raising children. Not sure where this dialogue would fit into a course or even if I would have paid attention to it at that age. The consequences of wanting children and how that will affect you as a woman later in life (and especially the fact that women are operating on a pretty narrow time-table) are really the last thing on your mind when you are single, young and excited about applying to graduate schools. In retrospect, a reality check coming from my professors or an academic advisor of some kind would have been beneficial - or at least lessened some of the frustrations later on. Then again, how could a professor or mentor have phrased it in a PC way without the fear of sounding sexist or discriminating, or for that matter, discouraging academically?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16201378.post-1132598833153220082005-11-21T13:47:00.000-05:002005-11-21T13:47:00.000-05:00Which is fair enough. Hewlett was concerned with ...Which is fair enough. Hewlett was concerned with a large number of ambitious young women who had no realistic idea of how hard it would be to have babies later if they did want to. I find that error among some of my students, as well. If you are not worried about babies in the first place, many other options open.Gruntledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14377809238377382438noreply@blogger.com